2020 was awful
Before the last election, I felt many interesting feelings stirring up inside me. It was about how I feel about other family and friends and their opinions. I was sure that after the election if Trump won I was going to cut off the people in my life who supported him. Since that didn’t happen, it ended perhaps saving many relationships. Ultimately I started realizing now that relationships are too important to have disagreements over people we don’t even know.
pandemic amplified
The pandemic has made things even more amplified than they were really are and lately there are so many issues. I’m big supporter of any anti-racist movement. I am someone who identifies as Asian American. It was very hard for me to see friends and family support Trump, he was very polarizing. I felt so heated I didn’t want many friendships to continue after I saw what friends posted on social media. Reflecting about things, I think the media is divisive and actively is trying to make people get angry with each other.
arguing over the useless
I don’t want to be angry at anybody. For sure I don’t wanna argue or fight with people that have loved me and have done good things for me. These friendships have nothing really to do with this person that’s in the media. It’s so strange that we allow celebrities/politicians to become ingratiated in our lives. Many of us arguing with loved ones over things that really don’t directly affect us.
cancelling people
I’ve mentioned before the relationship with my mother is … well you know it is what it is. I’m willing to accept what it is and still have her as a part of my life. That’s the thing I feel like we are being pushed into this all or nothing kind of life. Everyone wants us to be true to ourselves, to speak our truth. I don’t know in the end how this will work out because eventually everybody will end up offending us. We eliminate people that don’t agree with and if we don’t allow people to call us out, then how can we live virtuously? None of us are perfect. I feel by cancelling people we being just as narrow minded.
When we are wrong we need people to say “you are wrong” regardless of what we believe our truth is. Who is to hold us accountable and how are we supposed to grow otherwise?
we all have many sides
Isn’t also the definition of narcissism is not to listen to anyone but yourself? It’s rather immature for us to cut people out of our lives if they tells us something that we don’t like to hear. I have had problems with my heart and loss overtime, my soul it’s picked up a lot of life. I think I’ve learned through this process it’s allowed me to see people from many dimensions. One person is not 100% bad, I don’t believe that about anybody. As an adult I will try to see the good I can in person, and I will try even harder to see it in my loved ones. If we don’t have the same opinions I will not risk my relationships. I will hold what’s dear to me in my life the connections with real people.
be an ambassador mom
I will keep this as my truth. Since I’m evolving as a person, I will continue to make mistakes. I will always try to live life like wearing a loose cotton coat, and to not take things so serious to cancel parts of my life. I want my kids to recognize life is not all or nothing nor is it black and white. By being so rigid I fear that I would be teaching my children how not to cope in real life. It’s best to start practicing this now so in the future I will have less chance of this kind fracture with my own children later in life.
